COMMUNICATION

COMMUNICATION:

          This week in class we talked about communication and the importance of it within your family and marriage. 86% of communication is non-verbal were they won’t say what they are thinking and this is what is starting to hurt families they will not talk about things. People think that they have power by: coercive power: avoid punishment, with holding affection, legitimate: spouse ask for something duty to help them out. Expert: spouse has special knowledge, Referent: to please spouse because you love them, Informational: What spouse wants is in best interest.

          We also learned about the council method, when making decisions (12Apostles& First presidency)

-speak openly

-frankly

-Council- systematic

-Consensus- doing something for the group

-meet every Thursday

-meet in the temple

-meet early to express love and appreciation

-open with prayer

-End with prayer thanks and dedicate

-Celebrate with chocolate or pie.

Discuss to consensus: when we get married you need to make choices together so you are stronger together, and involve the Lord.

If you have more questions about the counseling method there is a book by M. Russell Ballard called counseling and the Council.